What if ADHD comes from when you weren’t allowed to focus on yourself and your own choices as a child?
We know there could be many variables that cause ADHD and brain fog…
My theory is associated with topics around complex PTSD, emotional neglect, parental enmeshment and people pleasing…
What if ADHD is Distraction Trauma caused by our focus and attention being manipulated?
The reason why we have any difficulties and triggers at all is because, as children, when we were disapproved of in some way by our parents, we shut down that thing about us, to please them, and to stay safe and loved, in favour of being how and what they wanted us to be.
… And therefore we were never focused on or attuned to by our parents and therefore positively reinforced to be ourselves in our natural state and autonomous choice of how to present ourselves.
This is developmental trauma!
When we naturally gravitated to focusing on our own style of expression, interests and behaviours and they didn’t like that and preferred us to focus on what they wanted us to focus on, we abandoned focusing on ourselves and focused on them and meeting their needs and things outside of ourselves external to us instead of meeting our own needs!
Doing this chronically on repeat as children and in our adult relationships, has led us to become unable to focus on ourselves and our own dreams, goals and aspirations because we still carry that energy of shut down, diversion, insignificance and low self esteem trapped in the cells of our body.
When a child has to constantly monitor their parents expectations to stay safe or loved, their brain is forced into a permanent state of distraction away from their own inner world!
Its an old story that sounds something like ‘I shouldn’t express myself by honouring and valuing myself and my own needs, I should prioritise doing what others want and need’ !
If your ADHD symptoms were created in this way, then you absolutely have the capacity to reprogram yourself to get into alignment with what you are choosing with your own sovereign authority.
If you would like information about self healing and reprogramming, I teach people how to do that…
Get in touch with me at hello@JennyLuscombeEFT.co.uk
lots of love
Jen
